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Imposter syndrome. Have you ever heard of it? Experienced it? Have you ever noticed that doubt creeping in that you aren’t quite good enough to be where you are, doing what you’re doing? Have you experienced that feeling of fear setting in that someone will see that you’re a fraud, that you haven’t truly earned what you’ve accomplished, it’s all just down to luck?
You’re here! You’ve done it! You’ve made it out of the longest lockdown of the entire pandemic and you’re still standing! The clocks have gone forward, the kids are back at school, businesses are reopening, there is more daylight on offer and spring has most definitely sprung. Everyone’s excited to get their gardens ready for outdoor visitors under the rule of six and reunite with family and friends once again.
When you scroll through your social media feed, you’ll probably start to realise that your grid is flooded with posts from coaches.Nowadays there’s pretty much a coach out there for everything. Whether you’re looking for a health coach, empowerment coach, business coach or life coach, chances are there’s a coach specialising in that particular field.
What exactly is a coach? I mean if we are talking in the context of fitness coaching or a sports coach then I know the answer to that – a coach is someone that can help you to achieve your best, they create training plans for you, they analyse your form and tell you how to improve and they ultimately help you to get better, fitter, faster, stronger, whatever your goals are.
We give ourselves instructions while we carry out a task, random observations about our environment or a situation, or it could be what is often referred to as self-talk. Self-talk is the internal narrative you hold about yourself. It’s your inner voice and you may or may not have spent much time thinking about it or giving it any attention. The truth is, our self-talk can actually have a much bigger influence on the way we see ourselves, and the world around us than we realise.
Confidence is such a mighty word isn’t it? It carries so many different interpretations to people, that it is surprising that there is one official definition! What is clear though is that confidence is something that pretty much all of us aspire to have in some shape or form, and in my years as an independent financial advisor I’ve seen a lot of women whose confidence has been transformed by getting to grips with their finances.
Many people, including myself obvs (!) will tell you the life changing power of Life Coaching, but many people are still hesitant to hire one. Many feel they can’t justify that investment in themselves, perhaps now more than ever as we face into recession (yep its official!), an economy in a mess and world not one of us could have possible predicted just 6 months ago!
How much time do you spend thinking about what others are thinking about you?I’m going to place a bet ….. a lot!!!!But why do we do it to ourselves?
Why are we literally hard wired to jump straight into thinking, “What will they think?” “What will they say?” “Oh god, I cant they’ll all be thinking and saying …..” Yep we all become mind readers, over thinkers, proper worriers and before we know it stay exactly where we are!
I found myself chatting away with Mr B the other day about the up coming steps forward out of lockdown. I sense a number of feelings out there, excitement, nervousness, relief, trepidation? And for the first time, I genuinely think ever in my life, I used the word anxious to describe how I felt. Now, I have often used words such as stressed, highly strung, frustrated, worried …. But never have I considered myself anxious? And truthfully most people consider me pretty confident and incredibly resilient.
Who else is a sucker for saying yes? Do you, like me, often find yourself repeating to yourself, say no, say no, say no and then just blurt out yes! Why is it so difficult to say no to certain things? It’s just a word, right? Now don’t get me wrong I am a big advocate for the word yes, for going for it, for grabbing opportunities and leaping into ’fear’. But we have to be able to say yes to the right stuff and we also have to be able to say no to what doesn’t serve us, what isn’t right for us.
This week is Mental Health Awareness week and the theme is Kindness. It seems like a lifetime ago that we were shaken to our very core by the sudden, unexpected and terribly sad death of Caroline Flack. In the wake of her death #bekind was liked, shared, retweeted. T Shirts were produced, posters in production and for a moment we all stood in solidarity and said this is not ok. We said “Be Kind”